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Written by Frosty!
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Friday, 23 May 2008 21:29 |
It's no surprise that the majority of Christians on the net, mostly male (but some female) struggle with the addiction or domination of porn. There hasn't been a guy I've met online that hasn't confided in me that they struggle with it.
The idea of doing this thread popped in my head again after reading Hans accountability software post. I've wanted to talk about it for sometime now but I haven't come up with the balls to start beating up on it which is, for many of us, a very sensitive topic that we much rather keep in the dark.
Which only helps its control in your life.
In relation to the post: I've tried countless number of computer applications, several counseling courses, etc. and nothing really worked for me. Courses that helped in some amazing recoveries for people who've been addicted for 10, 20, 30 years did squat for me. The problem for myself has been ongoing for well over 12 years now.
While many courses described what porn does to the person, the persons life, the persons family, spiritual/mental/emotional implementations and a strong viewpoint on "resisting the devil and he will flee" they never asked the question: Why.
So the question I'm asking is: Why? What is the underlying gap in your life that porn is providing to you?
What porn was providing me was the aspect of another woman enjoying myself, while only in one aspect (sex) and hollow (it wasn't real, it wasn't with me - it was a performance). So for me: a strong personal enjoyable relationship with my wife helps immensely with fighting it. Not just physically but emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
I’m not saying that I still don’t struggle. Mrs and I have a fight, I’m feeling self conscious, I’m stressed, emotional/mental/physical/spiritual needs aren’t being met and I have a hard time not clicking up whatever site. Even though every fiber in my being tells me it’s all a lie my flesh has a strong argument with it being a ‘short time solution’ until things get patched up. This is where I need to resist and endure against the temptation, the most difficult part of the process.
I think a lot of married mens problems could be solved by both the husbands and wifes true understanding behind the cause of the addiction and then working together to solve it. However a lot of people can’t get beyond the aspect of the sin and the problem gets much worse.
Feel free to post up your experiences, things you’ve found to help you, recommended courses, applications, questions, etc. As I mentioned above some things didn’t work for me but they certainly worked for others.
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Last Updated on Friday, 23 May 2008 21:30 |
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