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Hello everyone and welcome to the newest article in The Alpha Jan's book of evolutionized feeling brought to you by The Alpha Jan. Anyways today I wanted to write about something that means a lot to both my best friend Dizzy GLOW and I and that is the concept and understanding of true love. Now Dizzy GLOW is a psychologist as in she went to college to become a psychologist but she didn't pursue a career since 1.) No money and 2.) She likes making video games more than psychology and 3.) She doesn't like the psychology in people in general now. There are just so many things that are below basic Victorian standards and open-minded views in the United States Society, she doesn't even bother. She doesn't talk much about true love to most people because a lot of people are very lust-driven, or non-instinctual impulse driven. Also, a lot of couples who end up together are what she calls "held together by silly string" because of the person's fear of their weaknesses instead of the true compatibility of understanding. Dizzy GLOW even said to me that I willl be quite late or extremely blessed to be with someone by how I am now since my Victorian standards are high-echelon and my open-minded views are very perplexing to people. She also says that out of everyone she knows, I am the only one who holds onto one of the rarest emotional strengths anyone could have: integrity and most people don't have it thus they fear it resulting that most people fear me or what Dizzy GLOW says as all the things within me that very few people would understand.
Anyways, what is true love? Well there are actually three forms of love in the standard view of psychology. If you have all three, then you are experiencing true love. For me, I would have to say that the only people who have all three are my best friends Dizzy GLOW and Krystal. Note that true love may make the most excellent relationships even if the relationship isn't together. Most of the greatest romances by Shakespeare were tragedies as in they were meant to be together and they wanted to be but before it even happened, tragedy strikes either in their own failure or their own weakness or the weakness of the society around them. Now without any further delay, here are psychology's three forms of love, and once again if you have all three, you are experiencing true love.
Brotherly Love - This is love for your fellow man in a way of benevolance or charity. Now when it is towards a person in general, than you are charitable, hospitable, and benevolent to that person as sharing and caring. You give as much as you can and you give all you have without asking for anything in return. This also includes all the emotions that cater to brotherly love such as honesty, loyalty, or all around true fidelity.
Romantic Love - The feeling of emotional high and exhiliration for a person, place, or thing. Most of the time its extreme passion and powerful elation when you are with a lover or with someone you truly care about. Once again, me would be Dizzy GLOW and Krystal. Infatuation is an aspect of romantic love and may also lead to disillusionment in where vices before which meant nothing start to take affect or the flaw hidden that affect a relationship are now showing. However, romantic love is an opening and ending for a relationship but usually the "soul spark" love is the one that is mostly ignored among most people becaue soul sparks happen to people who never truly expected it and sometimes to most of the time, to people in situations where the soulmate connection is tested such as two people soul sparking when both people are in other relationships.
Physical Love - Sometimes known as sexual love or physical attraction. This is actually the weakest of the three but the one that binds people to the weaknesses more than anything else. One time, a friend asked why I am always single when I can easily be with a beautiful woman. Now for me, beautiful women are very common. Go to a mall: a lot of beautiful women. Go to a high-class beach: a lot of beautiful women. Go to the Playboy Mansion, Hollywood, fashion show: a lot of beautiful women but once again beauty is only skin deep. I go for something a whole lot more than physical attraction. I will admit it when a person is beautiful but it is not the deciding factor. All in all, it's our imperfections that attract people because if everyone is perfect, then there is no need to be with anyone preferred.
So those are the three. Using Dizzy GLOW as my factor. I care about the girl more than anyone except for one person (brotherly love), I am always happy no matter what whenever I see or hear from her (romantic love), and I think she is the most beautiful girl in general (physical love). When it comes to Krystal, I care about the girl more than anyone else in this world (brotherly love), I am more happy whenever I am with her even if its just a moment in time for that moment means more to me than the rest of my day (romantic love), and she is the most beautiful girl in my eyes (physical love). Maybe one day, I'll get to that point when I am in a relationship because looking down on the echelone is almost the rest of the world. Looking around me on the echelon is a very limited few, and looking above me on the echelon is My God, My Tourniquet, who returns to me, salvation. Christ, and angels.
Faith Saves ALL!
Alpha OUT!
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