We finally have it. A XXXchurch book for WOMEN and a XXXchurch book for MEN. These officially hit stores September 1 but we have instant downloads of the PDF available NOW for only $10 bucks. We have small group kits as well. Check out www.eyesofintegrity.com to purchase. Here is a bit about each book.
As a young pastor, Craig Gross became overwhelmed with the sheer number of people he found himself counseling who were mired in the destructive world of online pornography. Their lives were broken, their hearts and minds corrupted. How, he wondered, could he minister to the many hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions, of people trapped by sexual addiction?
Through accountability software and an online hub called XXXchurch.com, Craig began to give hope. Now, with Eyes of Integrity, he offers...
Porn Sunday 2011
It’s the Sunday of the Big Game and it generates HUGE numbers. But despite the dollars and ratings generated by America’s largest sports spectacle, there are numbers even more staggering: 40 million Americans visit porn sites daily, 47% of Christians said pornography is a major problem in the home, and porn revenue is LARGER than the combined revenues of ALL professional football, baseball and basketball franchises!
Join us on to strengthen your community, equip your church, empower people to battle America’s dirty little secret of pornography.
In addition to tons of great resources to equip you and your church to confront the elephant in the pew, this year we’re including the opportunity to be part of a Virtual Simulcast. Download a half hour video message with me (Craig Gross) along with a few of our friends in the NFL.
Register your church for FREE @ www.pornsunday.com
Find out what churches are by clicking...
Ezer Kenegdo
Note: This was a note that I penned for a blog that I do for single women in preparation for marital covenant. I think some of you might appreciate a few things that I discovered. Please know that you all remain in my prayers...as we all continue this quest towards holistic purity. SRW
“Then the Lord God said, ‘It’s not good that man should be alone; I will make a helper who is like him.’”---Genesis 2:18 (GMLT)
Hey Ministers-in-Training,
Are you waiting to be called to a fast? ME TOO. I thought it would’ve happened by now. I simply haven’t felt a release from the Comforter (John 14:26-AMP) yet. HOWEVER, I do have a bit of an assignment for us. You’ll need a fresh journal for it.
In my own personal quest, curiosity, desire to have a “Back to the Garden of Eden Covenant”, I have been spending quite a bit of time researching...
Prison For 5 Years
I wrote THIS back on January 18th 2006. Bill gets out in less then 2 months. We have stayed in touch with him over the years and are happy to see him when he gets out.
Here is an email from Bill, who I met this weekend in Ohio. We just interviewed him on this weeks podcast, so check that out. Please pray for Bill and his family.
This is the end of Porn Blvd. ....Craig
My first time I was introduced to porn was when I was about 11. My friend who lived down the street who was the same age, was apparently allowed to have it. He lived with his mom, and in his room there was porn all over the place. It was never hidden, so I would believe that his...
Dangerous Curves
In a few weeks I will be heading to the mountains with my family on vacation. We are going to be traveling the back roads in the mountains to see the things we normally miss and get off the beaten path. As we travel these roads just as I have done in the past I know that I will see signs telling me about dangerous curves ahead and to slow down. This is just a friendly warning from state officials because of accidents that have happened in the past.
When it comes to recovery we are always worried about relapse. I get questions all the time asking how to control or stop the urges. I say its hard to stop the urges because we are born with them but we can control our actions. Here is something that sounds silly but I believe for someone this may work....
Confess and Prosper....
The Bible says "Confess your sin and you will prosper. Conceal your sin and you will not prosper."
We added a sidebar on the XXXchurch site if you scroll down you will see something that says "Recent Confessions". Everyday people send in confessions to XXXchurch. We hope this serves as on of the first steps that people take in getting rid of the sin in their life. The next step we would suggest is to share this with a friend, not just complete strangers.
One of the things about porn is it makes you feel like you are all alone. If you are struggling, we hope you see that is a lie. There are almost 4,000 confessions on the site of people (MEN, WOMEN, SPOUSES, PASTORS, TEENS) just like you that are struggling.
You can see the latest confessions on the side of the home page as well as on the CONFESSIONS...
Canada Round #2
I have always been a very passionate person. If I am going to do something then I put all I am, all I have into it. I am an all or nothing kind of girl. Being passionate comes very natural to me. Regardless of your character or temperament, we all have things we are passionate about. What makes you pound the table with your fist? What stirs your emotions inside? What motivates you to take action?
I am not passionate about attending porn shows or holding conferences on porn but I am passionate about people, especially hurting people.That motivates me to go to porn shows, hand out Bibles and meet with pastors about helping people inside and outside of their buildings walls.
I have spent a lot of time praying and going over this vision that has been set out for Canada. I will be up front and say it has...
Team XXXchurch Recap
July 18, 2010 marked the beginning of Team XXXchurch as we completed the Vineman 70.3 half Ironman Triathlon. Many months ago the idea was fresh and untested - would it work for a organization battling porn to break into the endurance world to raise funding and awareness? Absolutely YES! This last week our team, made up primarily of men who had no previous connection to the ministry, raised over $12,000 and completed a 70.3 mile triathlon. Our goal was to raise awareness to the ministry and to raise funds for the ministry.
As Sunday morning neared 6AM our team arrived and prepared for the event. We were all wearing our new team jersey's and ready to fight the battle in front of us. In each wave members of our 8 man team...
Sex Addiction Images
We created some great graphics for you to post on your site, blog and anywhere online for different types of addiction. Sex, Food, Internet, Substances and Money are all available HERE on the heartsupport site. Below is the sex addiction one. Spread the word.
Source Sex Addiction
Thieves in the Temple: The Truth About Sexual Sin
“Marriage is honorable in every respect; and, in particular, sex within marriage is pure. But God will indeed punish fornicators and adulterers.”---Hebrews 13:4 (JNTP)
“Sex without love is violence.”---Eric Jerome Dickey
Head’s up: Certainly, this is more of a “preventative measure message” for those who are single (and no matter what, you are single if you are not married). However, I would encourage married people to read this, too; especially if you had sex before marriage. It’s not going to be the most comfortable ride, but it may provide some clarity on how to confess (James 5:16), pray and be reconciled re: your relationship now.
“These things we also speak, not in words which man’s wisdom teaches but which the Holy Spirit teaches, comparing spiritual things with spiritual. But the natural man does not...
Los Angeles eXXXotica Show
The show was great. XXXchurch even landed on TMZ. Here are some recaps.
Breyanne Nordtvedt
The grace of God followed us throughout the entire Porn Convention. I felt prepared and equipped for every interaction, every conversation and every encounter. The darkness of the environment seemed to bounce right off. I am so grateful for the opportunity to reach the men and women we had the privilege of reaching. There was such openness and receptiveness. I praise God for the work He accomplished and for the prayers that went before us.
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Steven Kiefer
My Wife and I had a great time at this years XXXpo! One specific encounter I remember was with a guy that ran a slip n'slide booth next to us who's name ironically was Christian. I walked up to him and introduced myself....after a few "what up's" "not much" "what up with u"...
False (?) Advertising
OK...
Sometimes I run across a Scripture that I know I should probably blog on...but I end up, what I call, "bookmarking it" until I can figure out totally why.
Today, I got my "why".
You know, Chris Rock can be...let's say, "open" with his dialogue (LOL) and so while I will refrain from quoting him verbatim, I do recall him once saying that he didn't understand why you would dress for a job you didn't work. And, brilliantly (because it supports the message that I am wanting to convey today), he was referring to women who dress, let's say...immodestly. Actually, he articulated more like so:
Prostitutes. Hookers. Harlots. Whores. Hos.
They dress to make money, right? At least traditionally, that's what their attire was for. The clothes that they picked showed off their, eh hem, merchandise.
Yet, as I think about some of the things that I used to put on, on this side of...
Wives and Adultery
I saw these stats on infidelity and thought they were interesting. Sadly, I thought that some of them looked a little low (see link below).
The section on why people have affairs really struck me. If these studies are accurate, it appears that men have affairs for physical reasons, whereas women have them for more emotional, intimacy-related reasons. The reasons for men are; 44% want sex more often and 40% want variety in their sexual partner. The three reasons listed for women are: 40% want more emotional attention, 33% want to be reassured that they're still desirable, and 11% cheat for revenge.
As wives of men addicted to sex and/or pornography, we are susceptible to these three things. We often feel emotionally isolated, undesirable, and angry (even to the point of wanting revenge) as a result of our husbands' addictions. These feelings can...
Yahoo's Thoughts on Parents & Internet Safety
If you didn't know June was Internet Safety Month and Yahoo! released the results of a survey they recently commissioned about Parents and Online Safety. The results were pretty interesting and, according to the survey, parents are doing a good job in some areas and in others they need more help and education.
Let's take a look and some of the results:
78% of parents are concerned about their children’s online safety.
70% of parents talk to their children about online safety at least 2-3 times a year; 45% talk to their children at least once a month.
74% of parents are connected to their children’s profiles on social networking sites.
71% of parents have taken at least one action to manage their children’s use of the Internet or cell phones such as:
- Check to see where children are searching online.
- Set time limits for children’s use of computers or cell...
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Bourbon Street - Hello New Orleans
I just got back from an amazing vacation with the family. We flew straight from our vacation to New Orleans. I am currently staying right on Bourbon Street surrounded by 40,000 teenagers. This is not Mardi Gras this is for a youth conference. Kind of a crazy place for a national youth gathering. If you don't know about Bourbon Street read more about it here.
I was here 9 years ago for the same event. Excited to be back. I get to speak three times to about 12,000 kids. My good friends David Dean and Jason Harper are speaking as well.
Back to Vegas late Tuesday night.
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Android Phone Loaded With Porn
In case you were in the dark, X3watch has been released for ANDROID phones and iPhones. Get the accountabilty software now. Check out this story.
Apple probably needs a laugh about now, and this might be giving them one. After all, Apple CEO Steve Jobs once famously said that "Folks who want porn can buy an Android phone." This Ann Arbor, Michigan woman didn't buy an Android phone for porn, but got it anyway, and preloaded to boot.
The reason that Rhonda Lee ended up with porn on her phone is that the HTC EVO 4G she bought wan't new. She bought it from a third-party (read: not corporate) Sprint store, and they said it was new, but that was obviously not the case.
There were five video clips on the...
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Stuff Christians Like: Porn Post
We have told you before about www.stuffchristianslike.net. It is a great site written by a guy named Jon and he just released a book as well you can get here.
We had him on the podcast way back when. You can take a listen to it here. We are going to be shooting a video with him in November. I just re-read what he posted on his site about porn and wanted to share it with you. You can check it out on his site as well here.
(Yesterday, the ministry xxxchurch.com interviewed me about SCL, what the hipsters are calling this site. I will let you know when their podcast is up. I’ve been meaning to write about porn for a while and here it is. Read this one and then for a laugh,...
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Man v. Food - Porn Edition
Ridiculous. I mean, seriously. A seven and a half pound burger, plus side dishes? And he just swallows it on down in less than an hour. What a beast!
I don't know how many of you watch the show "Man v. Food", but the shows host Adam is seriously a food guy. He can simply put stuff away. From monster burgers to six and a half pound milkshakes; crazy. You have to wonder though, mainly because the Travel Channel never shows it, what happens when he gets "too" full? That's all off camera stuff I guess, but I can't imagine all that food sitting well. Especially the hot stuff.
The hot stuff is a tricky thing. From challenges with six wings to others with twelve. As much as he can put some of them down, there are some he just can't handle. The tears pour down his...
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Porn & Your Family (Children)
People ask often “how can my viewing of porn affect others around me. I watch it alone; it’s just me and the porn this can not possibly affect others.” However your actions and habits affect everyone around and your relationship with them. We hope that with each section we can bring some light to each area and how it affects you and others in your life.
How do you explain to your kids why daddy or mommy is going away? Thankfully this did not happen to Brian and me but, so many other people do not get the “happy” ending that we did. Families are broken up, kids get separated from one another and their life is changed forever. Porn addiction affects the whole entire family.
A Childs Observation
Have you ever noticed your kid(s) doing something that was wrong and you tell them “don’t do that?” ...
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Being Misunderstood
I think this has to be one of the hardest things for the wife of an addict. We are misunderstood from all sides. Our husband's don't get (usually) why this causes such a deep inner sickness in the depths of our heart and our soul. Our church (if they even are willing to get involved) wants to try every approach but how the Bible tells the church to deal with a believer in habitual sin. They focus on him for a period of time (rightfully so) but I have seen and heard of very few churches who address this GOD's way when everything else they try still leaves them with a backsliding Christian amongst the body for years and years.
Often the wife is left somewhere in the back of the room yet it is us who are on the front line of spiritual warfare for the souls of our husband's....
